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We did it, we had a successful first home study. Our sw is very nice, informative and easy to talk to.
The schedule for our next ones are as follows:
Josh's h. study 7-31-08
My h. study 8-4-08
Our 4th h. study 8-25-08
and at this 4th home study we will schedule our home visit.
We expressed to her our desire to complete the home studies, paperwork, PEs etc...by the beg. of Sept. So we are looking at a possible approval in 9/08. After talking with the sw she stated it did not look like we'd have any problem getting approved. We talked about me having diabetes and all she asked was "how is it going?" So as long as the NP I am seeing for my PE doesn't think anything of it, all should be well with that. I mean come on why would having D keep you from parenting?
We found out from her that there is only about 3-4 adoptions actually from our state each year due to the demographics of either mom's parenting or having abortions.
So we will most likely be ultimately adopting out of state. This holds a big element of surprise...where will we one day be traveling to?
We also found out that we need to network on our own, they do some, but we'd have a better chance at finding a placement if we use the help of a profile service or ultimately a facilitator.
I have been researching these types of options and have narrowed our search down to an adoption center in another state that does networking and outreach all over the US. I filled out an app. online and should hear in 10-14 days or so if we qualify for their services as they usually only take a certain # of families to work with at a time.
The women I spoke with on the phone yest. told me they have more birth mother's then A families right now. She said they state a 3-12 mos wait for placement although most waits for a healthy Caucasian newborn are around 6-14 mos. of course one just can never estimate how long it really will be.
I have to say that adding this service in and obtaining more info from our 1st home study meeting, my head is spinning. There is so much to do and decide on.
We can either do a profile online for of course less $ and see where that takes us or hire a facilitating agency which may speed up the process quite a bit, of course it cost a lot more too and this is my concern. I just want to try and make sure we don't go way over our budget...Yikes!
So we will be figuring things out here for a while.
I need to fill out a financial form for the adoption agency to assess our income/ assets and see if we qualify for reduced fees.
Both Josh and I need to also work on our autobiographies and get them to her by the beg. of next week.
On a happy note, my Dad said yest. "I have a good feeling about this" which makes me feel really happy. He was the first one (besides Josh and I) to think about adoption. Also, I went shopping with my Mom yest. and we happened into Babies R us for outlet covers for our house for our home study and she wanted to pick out a blanket for us to commemorate the begin of our adoption journey. This meant so much to me because I have believed all along, it will happen and having her do that shows me that she now believes too.
GOD please help make all of our dreams for a little one come true.
I can not wait for Josh to become a Daddy, to make my Mom and Dad proud Grandparents, my Grandmother a Great Grandmother again, to make my sister an Aunt again, my Aunt Anne a Great Aunt and of course for me to actually be a Mommy........OMG!!
Please continue to think positive thoughts for us, wish us well and help us pray.
Thank you!
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
1st home study tom.
The sw called us the day she received our packet (which was the day after sending it). She LM saying she wanted to discuss the next step with us. This was a Tues. She said to call her on Thurs. I called, we spoke and she said they were delighted to receive our application and we scheduled our 1st home study for Tuesday 7-22-08 at 4 pm. Wow!
I am not sure how long the home studies will take (total of 5)1 initial meeting together, 1 with each of us separately, another together and the final one at our home. I guess we'll find out tom. when our next one will be.
We have our first class on Monday 7-28-08 at 7:30 pm.
I finally feel the dis pare of all these difficult months starting to fall behind us. I feel like I am almost normal...Although DH and I may not be able to sit back and say, hey lets start a family and get pregnant (something that I feel hurt and sadness about, something that feels like it has been taken away from us) we can say, lets adopt a baby and will.
We pray that we are accepted and hopefully waiting some time in the early fall.
We both have our physical appt. in the very beg. of Sept. I am hoping that all our visits are done before then and that those appt. end up being all we need to wait for for our final approval.
I can't imagine not being approved...I would see no reason for us not to be.
Therefore I am allowing myself to get excited. I finally feel like a "normal" woman who is planning on expecting some time in the near future (though our miracle will most likely be from adoption). I feel like I can think ahead, look to the positives and stop saying maybe some day we will be parents, maybe some day we'll have a baby. I can't wait to be approved so we can say we are going to be parents, we are going to have a baby. I will be so happy and relieved once this happens and then we will wait till we are chosen, but in the mean time we can register for a shower (like a normal mom and dad to be) and plan for our little ones arrival...what a great day that will be!
Please continue to pray with us that this process goes smoothly and quickly! Thank you to all for your support you give to us. We love you all!
I am not sure how long the home studies will take (total of 5)1 initial meeting together, 1 with each of us separately, another together and the final one at our home. I guess we'll find out tom. when our next one will be.
We have our first class on Monday 7-28-08 at 7:30 pm.
I finally feel the dis pare of all these difficult months starting to fall behind us. I feel like I am almost normal...Although DH and I may not be able to sit back and say, hey lets start a family and get pregnant (something that I feel hurt and sadness about, something that feels like it has been taken away from us) we can say, lets adopt a baby and will.
We pray that we are accepted and hopefully waiting some time in the early fall.
We both have our physical appt. in the very beg. of Sept. I am hoping that all our visits are done before then and that those appt. end up being all we need to wait for for our final approval.
I can't imagine not being approved...I would see no reason for us not to be.
Therefore I am allowing myself to get excited. I finally feel like a "normal" woman who is planning on expecting some time in the near future (though our miracle will most likely be from adoption). I feel like I can think ahead, look to the positives and stop saying maybe some day we will be parents, maybe some day we'll have a baby. I can't wait to be approved so we can say we are going to be parents, we are going to have a baby. I will be so happy and relieved once this happens and then we will wait till we are chosen, but in the mean time we can register for a shower (like a normal mom and dad to be) and plan for our little ones arrival...what a great day that will be!
Please continue to pray with us that this process goes smoothly and quickly! Thank you to all for your support you give to us. We love you all!
Monday, July 14, 2008
Sending in our application today
Our application packet is finally all ready to be sent. Copies made, papers signed, picture and check included, etc... I am mailing it out today. Yipee!!
I am so very excited about this, but sooooo nervous too!
Please pray with us that this process is smooth, quick and wonderful!!
We'll keep you updated...thanks ;O)
I am so very excited about this, but sooooo nervous too!
Please pray with us that this process is smooth, quick and wonderful!!
We'll keep you updated...thanks ;O)
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
We are starting the process to adopt a baby!!!
I have always wanted to adopt at least one of our children someday. Well, after ttc now without luck, why not start now.
We have made our decision to start our family through adoption. I have contacted all the local agencies, gotten their info and reviewed it all. At first I was feeling discouraged based on a few things like cost, $35-$40,00o, some of the agencies wanted BMI, a health form stating we have average life expectancies (I was worried due to having diabetes), married at least 2 years and one needed proof of infertility. Well, I was discouraged till I got the last packet. It states an average cost of $22,000, wants ht and wt on PE form, but not BMI, can be in a relationship for 2 yrs, health clearance from DR (I asked a sw on the phone about having diabetes, she said that I just need a DR to say I am healthy and managing my diabetes) and I just liked the feel of this agency. So I called for an application and read it over right away when I received it, starting filling it all out and now we just need to both sign everything and notarize some forms, get our PE's and send it all back in. We need to attend 10 evening learning sessions (I believe they are on the 4th Mon of each mos). Then we start the home study process which consists of about 5 interviews (one being in our home as a home review). After our CORI and I think fingerprint stuff comes in and all is reviewed we await approval. Once approved we are then in our "paper pregnancy" and await a match and ultimately placement.
Please, please pray with us that this process goes smoothly and quickly.
I already feel a feeling of relief and excitement. Yes, I am very nervous about it all, but at the same time happy to be able to free myself from all these emotions around ttc and finally give my body and mind a break.
It is in your hands GOD and we believe!
Hoping with all our hearts and praying with all that we are that we will be parents through adoption.
GOD Bless!
We have made our decision to start our family through adoption. I have contacted all the local agencies, gotten their info and reviewed it all. At first I was feeling discouraged based on a few things like cost, $35-$40,00o, some of the agencies wanted BMI, a health form stating we have average life expectancies (I was worried due to having diabetes), married at least 2 years and one needed proof of infertility. Well, I was discouraged till I got the last packet. It states an average cost of $22,000, wants ht and wt on PE form, but not BMI, can be in a relationship for 2 yrs, health clearance from DR (I asked a sw on the phone about having diabetes, she said that I just need a DR to say I am healthy and managing my diabetes) and I just liked the feel of this agency. So I called for an application and read it over right away when I received it, starting filling it all out and now we just need to both sign everything and notarize some forms, get our PE's and send it all back in. We need to attend 10 evening learning sessions (I believe they are on the 4th Mon of each mos). Then we start the home study process which consists of about 5 interviews (one being in our home as a home review). After our CORI and I think fingerprint stuff comes in and all is reviewed we await approval. Once approved we are then in our "paper pregnancy" and await a match and ultimately placement.
Please, please pray with us that this process goes smoothly and quickly.
I already feel a feeling of relief and excitement. Yes, I am very nervous about it all, but at the same time happy to be able to free myself from all these emotions around ttc and finally give my body and mind a break.
It is in your hands GOD and we believe!
Hoping with all our hearts and praying with all that we are that we will be parents through adoption.
GOD Bless!
4th Clomid cycle finally over
After 60 days there was finally an end to this trying cycle. I started taking soy isoflavones yest. 160 mg a day from cd 3 - cd 7. We'll see what happens.
We also have come to a big decision in our life...........see next post!
We also have come to a big decision in our life...........see next post!
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Josh is back working in wells/ pumps
He started at a local well co. 3 wks ago. He is loving being back into well work. I am so happy for him. He is beat though. Last Fri. he worked from 6 am to 8:30 pm and made good overtime the other nights too. They have made a few comments about him doing well so that is good. He is a great, dedicated and hard worker.
It has been in the 100's in the sun on Monday and Tues of this wk. with lots of humidity with a heat index of 125 yest. and I think 116 on Mon. It was awful! Today has much less humidity and feels a lot nicer in the high 80's (90 in the sun on the thermometer @ 2:30 pm).
I went and bought a pool on Monday. We have been working on leveling and preparing an area for it the past 2 evenings. Maybe it will get assembled tonight :o) if Joshy gets home at a reasonable time to work on it. It is a metal frame one, 15 x 48. We are getting excited to use it.
It has been in the 100's in the sun on Monday and Tues of this wk. with lots of humidity with a heat index of 125 yest. and I think 116 on Mon. It was awful! Today has much less humidity and feels a lot nicer in the high 80's (90 in the sun on the thermometer @ 2:30 pm).
I went and bought a pool on Monday. We have been working on leveling and preparing an area for it the past 2 evenings. Maybe it will get assembled tonight :o) if Joshy gets home at a reasonable time to work on it. It is a metal frame one, 15 x 48. We are getting excited to use it.
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